{"id":162,"date":"2016-05-06T09:39:46","date_gmt":"2016-05-06T15:39:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/smirkingcynic.com\/?p=162"},"modified":"2016-05-06T09:40:33","modified_gmt":"2016-05-06T15:40:33","slug":"unsocial-media","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/smirkingcynic.com\/?p=162","title":{"rendered":"Unsocial Media"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;ve spent the past week or two trying to find ways of getting out of social media, but not for the reasons that you may expect. I&#8217;m tired of having it being so inexorably tangled in my life. I&#8217;m tried of being under pressures that, frankly, I shouldn&#8217;t have allowed myself to fall prey to in the first place. In short, this stopped being all that fun a while ago and I really should find better ways of keeping up with people who are ostensibly part of my life.<\/p>\n<p>Given that one of my Facebook pet peeves &#8212; yes, that&#8217;s a thing for some reason &#8212; are folks that post grandiose announcements that they&#8217;re leaving Facebook, short or long term. It always came off to me like as &#8220;Hey! I have a huge goddamn ego and believe that you couldn&#8217;t live without my snarky quips about people that I think are less important than I am, and because of that you should be fraught with dread that I&#8217;m no longer going to be here! Panic like the sheep you are!&#8221; Or, you know, something like that. But something I noticed was exactly how embedded Facebook had become in my like. It&#8217;s like a deer tick. There&#8217;s a good chance I could poison myself while trying to remove it, and who wants Facebook Lyme&#8217;s Disease? I&#8217;m told the primary symptom is a blue target rash.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>The sad fact is that Facebook had become my primary means of keeping up with news, keep up with friends, plan events like birthdays and parties, and even chat. That&#8217;s not something one can easily just drop. I shudder to think what it would be like for a kid who really has no recollection of what life was like <em>before<\/em> all of this. Seriously. One of the reasons I got pulled in so rapidly was the ability to maintain regular communications with folks that I&#8217;d otherwise likely never hear from again.<\/p>\n<p>This week I finally made the post I was dreading. As of June 12th, 2016, I was dropping Facebook. The sole purpose of it was to just let folks know that I was cutting ties and if they wanted to stay in contact to let me know. But it&#8217;s also incumbent on me to keep in contact. This has never been my strong point, even when I&#8217;m feeling social. I generally avoid the phone unless it&#8217;s texting. I use email to take care of the daily life grind bullshit (and plan to get together with The Beard Brigade\u00a9 as necessity warrants). Around the holidays I send cards. That&#8217;s about it. I&#8217;ve always needed to address my sorely lacking social skills and it&#8217;s sink-or-swim time.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m just tired of going out to eat with my kids and invariably ending up with four heads bowed to smartphones around the table like some techno-based cult paying homage to the great digital god. You&#8217;ve seen people like this in restaurants. Add candles and Gregorian chant in the background and what else would it be? A group of people, ostensibly close enough to one another to warrant eating with one another, sitting in a trance-like state staring at little 5-inch LCD screens. I know all the cute games that folks play to reinforce good table etiquette, but I&#8217;d rather just eliminate the temptation to avoid making eye contact altogether. <\/p>\n<p>The good part of all of this is that I&#8217;m making a commitment of posting regularly here. This is probably a good thing because there were times that my status updates were long enough to post here in the first place. So we&#8217;ll see how it all goes. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;ve spent the past week or two trying to find ways of getting out of social media, but not for the reasons that you may expect. I&#8217;m tired of having it being so inexorably tangled in my life. I&#8217;m tried of being under pressures that, frankly, I shouldn&#8217;t have allowed myself to fall prey to in the first place. 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